Look clearly

Sometimes we don’t tell other people what we are feeling.  

Most often we don’t even tell ourselves.

On this journey of life, provocative events inevitably happen. We may become resentful, angry or frightened.

Emotional energy can build up within. 

If we don’t take time to work it out, the emotions become a block. This is basic one-o-one processing of potential limiting trauma, large or small.

It blocks the channel to our heart.

It blocks the channel to ourselves.

It can block our channel to others.

We may think we are being polite and appropriate by not saying what we feel. We may think that most thoughts and emotions are so minor it would be a waste of time to acknowledge and express each and every one of them. And it’s true that some aren’t worth mentioning, especially when we see their cause more clearly, but many are.

We need to take the time to feel and release the thoughts and beliefs that are important to us.

Is a relationship blocked? Are we feeling something we’re unable to discuss? The feeling won’t disappear. The energy of the unexpressed feeling will be present, blocking our connection until we take the time to get it out.

We may not admit to ourselves what we are feeling, or tell the other person what we’re experiencing but all of us are wiser than we think, and our bodies and emotions will begin reacting to what’s denied, despite what we say.

And all of this denial has very significant consequences, not just psychologically and emotionally, or on our relations, but physically as well and on all aspects of our entire sense of well-being. And despite the science constantly proving this, we continue to ignore it.

For example, the repression of anger is not an abstract emotional trait that mysteriously leads to physical disease. It is a major risk factor because it increases physiological stress on the whole being. It does not act alone but in conjunction with other risk factors that are likely to accompany it, such as hopelessness and lack of social support. The person who does not feel or express “negative” emotion will be isolated even if surrounded by friends, because their real self is not seen. A sense of hopelessness then follows from the chronic inability to be true to oneself on the deepest level. And hopelessness leads to helplessness since nothing one can do is perceived as making any difference. If experienced for too long, the scientific evidence suggests a manifestation of disease is likely.

Many of us experiment with the technique of using affirmations to try to further our growth. The same principle applies here. If we say we love ourselves, but we’ve got a chunk of self-reproach tucked down deep inside, we’ll continue to act as if we dislike ourselves until we clear the other energy out.

And this behaviour is the simple fact behind why so many things are broken in the world. If we aren’t whole, if we aren’t aware of how we’re hurting ourselves, then our own disconnect, disconnects us from others and the world around us. And if we’re all doing it, the consequences are……well society is the consequence and everything we are experiencing.

So, what are you feeling?

No, what are you really feeling?

Ask yourself as often as you need to. Go inward, explore, and experience your feelings deeply. Go towards them, as difficult as it may be, and look for clarity.

Then take the time to be with them fully. To feel them. The act of being with them clearly, will in itself change your relationship with them, but it is possible with clarity to then release the emotion, thought or belief behind it.

Ask for help if you need it.

Doing this, as the science proves, will more than likely lead to a healthier and happier life. And be a significant fix to the wider difficulties we collectively face.

You’re connecting to yourself.

And you’re connecting more deeply to the world around you.

May you be able to be true to yourself always.

—
Andrew.